It takes at least 4 years to apply for a divorce in Ireland. Will voters change that?
As the Dublin native seeks a divorce, his legal and financial situation may sound difficult, but this is not unusual in Ireland due to the country’s divorce laws, which are among the most restrictive in Europe.
Under current legislation, which is enshrined in the country’s constitution, a person can only apply for a divorce after living separately from their spouse for four out of the previous five years.
No one is exempt from this mandatory wait time, including those who are trying to leave abusive relationships, most of whom are women. Women suffering from domestic abuse could benefit from a shorter divorce process in order to protect themselves — and their children — from continued abuse from a former spouse, according to the National Women’s Council of Ireland.
Other individuals in the process of separating, like Rossney, argue that the minimum wait time creates unnecessary levels of anxiety, prohibits their ability to move on, wreaks havoc on their emotional well-being and is a terrible financial burden.
That could all change on May 24 when Ireland goes to the polls in a referendum on divorce.
A ‘protracted war’
Any changes to the Irish constitution
must be approved by a public referendum and, in this upcoming poll, voters will be asked whether they support a government proposal to remove the four-year wait from the constitution. If passed, parliament will legislate on the future time period needed before couples can apply for a divorce.
Voters will also be asked if they want to remove a law that doesn’t recognize foreign divorces, a provision that prohibits people who divorced outside Ireland from remarrying.
Minister for Justice and Equality Charlie Flanagan said
in March that “complex questions of social policy are best dealt with through detailed legislation in the Oireachtas (parliament) rather than within the confines of our Constitution.”
Flanagan added that the government intends to reduce the living apart period to two years so that both parties can “move forward with their lives within a reasonable timeframe.”
Forty-year-old Rossney told CNN that the long wait has fueled a hostile environment that has been exploited by the legal system, and that the proceedings — and relationship with his ex — could have been more positive if the mandatory period wasn’t so drawn out.
“I don’t think we would have hit such a low point if things hadn’t dragged on so long,” he said. “We knew we had a protracted war ahead of us.”
Rossney, a proud father of two, said that he believes that the current law means that legal teams don’t have “any incentives to stop fighting until the money is gone.” He said that Ireland’s family court “is not fit for purpose” as “like any other court, it is … a fight until one party wins and the other loses.”
A changing Ireland
Many in the process of divorce support the government proposal. If it passes, it will be the latest in a series of measures reflecting modern Irish society that have recently questioned, and rejected, the historical role of the Catholic Church’s doctrine on its institutions.
Ireland became the first country to legalize same-sex marriage through a popular vote, with more than 60% voting yes in a referendum in 2015. And, earlier this year, it opened its first abortion services following the 2018 vote
that repealed a constitutional amendment that had placed a near-ban on terminations.
While public support for the change in divorce law is high, a small minority fears that if it passes, it could lead to the demise of the institution of marriage.
David Quinn, director of the Catholic advocacy group Iona Institute, told CNN that if the waiting period was taken out of the constitution, “politicians will eventually vote two years down to six months, in which case the difference between marriage and cohabitation, legally speaking, becomes ever finer.”
Speaking on Irish radio in December, Quinn said
: “I don’t think something as important as marriage should be too easy to get out of.
“There should be a kind of trip wire to really slow down and think about it,” he added.
‘You’re in a situation where you can’t move on’
Quinn’s comments reflect Ireland’s difficult relationship with divorce, and the upcoming vote will mark the third time the country has held a referendum on the subject.
In a 1986 referendum, 63% of Irish voters
rejected a proposal to end a total ban on divorce.
Almost a decade later, Irish voters were asked again. The 1995 divorce referendum was a hotly contested campaign, vocally opposed by the Catholic Church. Marked by prominent signs reading “Hello Divorce, Goodbye Daddy,” anti-divorce activists argued that Irish men would leave their wives en masse if it passed.
That referendum did pass but only just: Ireland voted to repeal the country’s 58-year-old constitutional ban on divorce by a razor-thin margin of less than 1% of the vote
Some of that lingering anti-divorce sentiment, coupled with the current legal restrictions and the rise in cohabitating couples, are reflected in the country’s current divorce rate, which is among the lowest in Europe.
Married couples in Ireland tend to stay together at a far higher average compared to their EU counterparts, with a crude divorce rate of 0.7 out of 1,000 people, compared to the EU average of 1.9, according to Eurostat
While the introduction of divorce has been viewed as a pivotal moment in Ireland’s modern history, most of the Yes campaigners that CNN spoke to argue that the confines of the law continue to reflect an old Ireland, one whose constitution still has laws reflective of the Catholic Church’s grip.
This also includes a constitutional clause that states that a woman’s place is in the home
. A referendum on that was expected to take place last October in conjunction with a referendum that removed the offense of blasphemy
from the constitution. It has since been postponed.
Bishop Denis Nulty, chair of the Council for Marriage and the Family of the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference, said in a statement Saturday that “it is important to reflect deeply on the implications of this referendum which seeks to expedite the dissolution of marriage,” adding that the government should “recommit resources to marriage preparation and invest resources into marriage enrichment.”
David Graham, 37, who is currently separated, told CNN that when Ireland first introduced divorce, the “outside world might have thought Ireland had become more progressive. But when you look at it, it’s more regressive because they put in stipulations to make it very difficult to get a divorce.”
While he actively supports the upcoming referendum, he fears the new proposed wait time will still restrict separating couples’ ability to move on at their own pace.
“You go through that process and you just want to get through it, and you want to move on — but you’re in a situation you can’t move on.”